Tuesday, March 11, 2008
Randomization...
Not much to blog about so here are just a few random thoughts/questions ...
I prefer movies to television dramas. Movies tell you the whole story in one sitting and the happy endings stay forever. You may occasionally wonder what they mean by "And-they-lived-happily-ever-after" but it's really up to you to believe that all of it really did work out. Television gets characters together and then when it wants to spice things up makes them break up and get together with someone else. There are never any happy endings because there are never any endings and fools like me are hooked in the hope that it will somehow all work out with these imaginary people. Sigh!
In the movies where the lead characters find their "true love" while they're with someone else, has anyone wondered what happens to the person they dump to be with this new "true love"? Given that in most romantic movies at least one of the two lead characters dumps who they're with to be with their "true love", why do we consider these movies to be feel-good movies? Why do we never think about what happens to the other guy/girl? Why does no one shed a tear for him/her?
What do you do if you're at a party that you just didn't want to attend and are hating every minute of? What if you don't have any means of transportation to leave and are stuck there till the people you came with decide it's time to go? How do you feel when you know you're obviously missing something because every one seems to be having the time of their life? Do you sit in a corner and sulk the evening away, or try anything and everything to get out of there? Or do you suck it up and try to understand what it is that everyone else is so entertained by and give the whole affair an honest shot?
What if that party is actually your entire life and you see no purpose to it nor any way out of it? (Don't worry I'm really okay. I promise.).
Is there a reason why I have been getting hit on by guys who are already openly and seriously committed to another person? Three different guys in as many years is definitely no co-incidence. How do I even know these people?! And more importantly - where are the single guys??!!!
Can you really find the love of your life by filling out a form with your height, weight, salary and a few sugar-coated "About Me" lines?
I started working out 2-3 times a week at the start of the year and I have been putting on weight consistently ever since. Why am I always the weird one with these logic-defying realities?!
Why are you still reading this?!
Not much to blog about so here are just a few random thoughts/questions ...
I prefer movies to television dramas. Movies tell you the whole story in one sitting and the happy endings stay forever. You may occasionally wonder what they mean by "And-they-lived-happily-ever-after" but it's really up to you to believe that all of it really did work out. Television gets characters together and then when it wants to spice things up makes them break up and get together with someone else. There are never any happy endings because there are never any endings and fools like me are hooked in the hope that it will somehow all work out with these imaginary people. Sigh!
In the movies where the lead characters find their "true love" while they're with someone else, has anyone wondered what happens to the person they dump to be with this new "true love"? Given that in most romantic movies at least one of the two lead characters dumps who they're with to be with their "true love", why do we consider these movies to be feel-good movies? Why do we never think about what happens to the other guy/girl? Why does no one shed a tear for him/her?
What do you do if you're at a party that you just didn't want to attend and are hating every minute of? What if you don't have any means of transportation to leave and are stuck there till the people you came with decide it's time to go? How do you feel when you know you're obviously missing something because every one seems to be having the time of their life? Do you sit in a corner and sulk the evening away, or try anything and everything to get out of there? Or do you suck it up and try to understand what it is that everyone else is so entertained by and give the whole affair an honest shot?
What if that party is actually your entire life and you see no purpose to it nor any way out of it? (Don't worry I'm really okay. I promise.).
Is there a reason why I have been getting hit on by guys who are already openly and seriously committed to another person? Three different guys in as many years is definitely no co-incidence. How do I even know these people?! And more importantly - where are the single guys??!!!
Can you really find the love of your life by filling out a form with your height, weight, salary and a few sugar-coated "About Me" lines?
I started working out 2-3 times a week at the start of the year and I have been putting on weight consistently ever since. Why am I always the weird one with these logic-defying realities?!
Why are you still reading this?!
by nutty at 6:02 PM |
10 Comments:
So, as usual, I have a "I just thought so too!" story to this... just yesterday I was thinking of how I wanted a romantic happy ending just like in the movies, and was thinkingof writing a post on how I'm so totally affected (as are many people) by the fairy tale Hollywood and Bollywood movies!! And I always wondered why leaving someone at the altar or dumping someone u have been with for 10 years is acceptable in the name of "true love"?! I always wondered how bad the other person may feel and whatever happened to commitment! Thats one of the reasons I hate movies like Serendipity... its a whole lot of BS!
Ok Ok, breathe! :))
But yeah, I get what you mean with this post.. Oh, and about the party... I've actually sat down and sulked one entire evening because I just didn't see what was going on that was so much fun... hmmm...
hey i have got to say that u hav put in nice posts..njoyed reading it..
and abou this particular one- dont we all wonder like this??hehe there were parties where i was stuck at and had to wait for others to decide abt leaving...same way abt the weighht thing..hummm
Yes, "I" always feel bad for the person who was dumped, from Salman Khan in KKHH to the Jap chick in 'Babel' who loses her heart to a doc. I am sure they find their ways to go on.
My husband sulks, I feel tired by the end of a vacuous party. Sucks, not having own transport.
Yes, you can find your true love by a few sugar coated lines...hell, life is a lot about packaging! Anyways, relationships are about that one spark, one shared interest and the truckloads of companionship and communication. It DOES work!!!
All of us go through random wanderings, multiple sessions of 'what am I doing', but that does NOT mean you give up working out.. I try and when I really try, someday my body listens and sheds a few big ones!!
Chin up and Go to a parlour for a massage!!
A guy writes in ...
seems you started normally but then your pre-occupied thoughts got the better of you. cheer up sweets. I used to feel awkward and off that I didnt have someone special when I moved here but then you grow out of it. I guess at ourage we do need relationships and healthy ones at that, but searching for them wont get you anywhere is what I feel; you just need to get hit.
further thoughts ..
its very often the case that guy/girl who gets dumped I can relate to totally. So I stopped watching lovery dovey movies except "Somethings Gotta Give" & "When Harry Met Sally"
I take the cab out. say ont feeling well or I just remembered something etc.
Getting hit on by guys who are dating already; hell most guys love to hit on women anyways .. remmeber the line "jahan dekhi naari wahin line maari"; but my gf is very cool and I dont want to loose her for something stupid.
Naah you cant write nice lines etc; you just gostta know it babes.
Oh its a normal thing; when you work out the muscles tone up and they expand a bit and then they contract. anyways muscles are heavier than fat and hence the gain in weight.
reading it coz you write so well and straight up (not even on the rocks)
life's good and make it that way!
That is such a cute and candid writing. Felt like you were reading my mind!!
True love? Hmmm.. The word is too strong and over-romantic to me! I am a person who is a little grounded to reality! May be a little too much!
And all the guys who are hitting on you, well, it just says they are not really committed! And yeah, you dont need to know them, do you?
And i read it till the end, cos i loved it!! :)
@everyone - the party was an
allegory to being stuck in a situation which everyone around u considers a good thing but u can't seem to agree.. thnx everyone! The reactions were good to know :)
@still searching - lol! will the similarities never end?! :)
@enigma - welcome! and thank you! look forward to seeing you here more often :)
@cuckoo - Oh! I felt horrible for Sallu in KKHH! Then again I never liked that movie!
Not yet convinced with the "About Me" part. But I'm happy it worked for you :)
massage sounds like a goooood idea! :)
@anshul - I wont comment on the "line maari" line :) I can only say I wish it was that trivial .. unfortunately I can tell the difference :(
you'd be right about the fat/muscle if it wasn't for the fact that I'm gaining inches too .. argh!
@candid - read your latest post and it looks like you're going through a "I'm big now" phase :) my dear gurl! I fight "growing up" every minute of every day .. whats the fun in being grounded n mature? kiddy up :) it's a lot better! ;)
all the same - I guess you could be right! sigh!
if you see movies carefully in most of the times the guy/gal getting dumped is shown in bad character and not fit for the lead role.. thats why most of the people don't get into it and get in the feeling that they deserved it.... :)
and we still reading your posts cos its interesting :)
I've been wondering about 'True Love' thing as well these days. What about the other person? And can you really be happy if your whole relationship started by hurting some1? :)
Yeah, sometimes parties suck.. but then again you just get drunk and wait for evening to end and if you happen to be me, you either crib or yell at some1.. always helps:)
And You too.. what is this year of committed-guys-hitting-on-single-girls??
@nutty
"has anyone wondered what happens to the person they dump to be with this new "true love"?
You mean the person who was not able to judge the lead guy/gal? The person who thought she/he has found the love of her/his life when the lead was actually not in love with them?
Hedonism says you do what gives you pleasure. If the lead was not as happy in the relationship as he/she wanted to be, why suffer under the constrain of commitment?
On the other hand, there's respect for your own word; the commitment. If you can't remain committed to one person (assuming there were no 'problems' in the relationship, which is a genuine reason), good luck with the next person. And the person you dumped was best saved from you in the long run, so good for her/him.
@cuckoo
Salman Khan's character in KKHH understood in early stages that Kajol (Anjali) wasn't in love with him (he tells Anajali's ma). He still pursued, and clearly knew what he was getting into - a one-sided marriage, which thankfully didn't happen.
@cool
"Bad" character doesn't mean they don't deserve love. At least the bad character they show in most of the movies. The 'Kuljeet' character in DDLJ liked to shoot birds and joked about enjoying other gals after marriage (there's no evidence he was serious about it). How bad was that? Any better than Kajol who was secretly dating SRK while her marriage preparations were going on? :)
@soan
Depends. "Kill conscience, be happy" is the way. You're getting into the Karma realm.
About the love of your life, if you're referring to arranged set ups ala Bharat Matrimony.com and the like, let's be very clear that people are looking for marriage, not love in those set ups. You could bump into someone you could love there, but with the same probability as in regular everyday life.
So anyone walking into that process expecting to fall in love isn't doing the smartest thing for the self, or the fairest thing for the other parties involved.
(I feel very very strongly having been in the process for about 10 months or so, forgive my selective reply to one little para)
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